I’ve heard tons of definitions of what Love is – whether it’s an opinion or straight from the bible.
One of my favourite verses in the bible is the ones about Love:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Some people think love is an emotion, a surge of passion, the blush across one’s face, the commitment to be faithful, the feeling of always wanting to see the other person, an enveloping warm and fuzzy feelings or wanting the best for the other party.
And I agree. Love is all those things… And more.
I also believe that love is a decision and an action. As well as everything stated in 1 Corinthians. That love is unconditional and of course, quite impossible for us humans to achieve.
But I believe it is what we need to remind ourselves to strive for when we set out to love someone.
What sort of love is conditional?
I don’t even know how to answer that. And yet, sometimes when I look at the people around me, I can’t help think that over time, we’ve come to put a price tag, if you will, on love.
Perhaps not a price tag with monetary value, but a price tag of expectations and conditions.
Love is not a contract. Why should you expect something in return when you love? We all hope for reciprocation, obviously, but I don’t think you should demand it… for lack of a better word. (I digress, but I think pre-nups are one of the most depressing things in the world)
Love is an action – of being committed to the other’s success, of taking extra care and precaution not to hurt the other person no matter how angry or frustrated you may be, of making the conscious effort to ensure that the other feels loved.
We all love and feel loved in different ways. What use is it if you shove the way you love people down someone else’s throat when they don’t feel loved that way – and then get upset when they feel unloved?
It takes time to discover and learn how each other works, feels and functions – but whoever said loving someone was easy?
Honestly, loving someone unconditionally is one of the toughest things to do. After all, we all make mistakes and disappoint others at one point or another – which one of us is worthy to take that place on the pedestal and be above everyone else?
All I know is that unconditional love takes effort and time, and is worth more than pride or ego. We all need reminders now and then – myself included, thus this rather verbal lengthy thought process and reminder to myself and whoever else who happens to need it. Haha.
So really, if you just so happened to chance upon this somehow, and you were looking for a sign.. just swallow your pride and be giving. Just love.
(But you know, guard your heart and all that jazz too. Don’t misplace emotions. I know I sound contradicting but I am tired and I don’t know how else to put this across la! Tsk!)
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